Changing “I Wish….” To “I Can…”

Happy Wednesday. 🍁

A few weeks ago while on my daily afternoon walk with my dog, I looked up and noticed the various stages of the leaves changing colors. While I did stop to snap a quick shot with my phone, I found myself thinking I wish I was a photographer right now so I could spend my days outside capturing the beauty of fall.” and then I had an “ah ha” moment. I studied photography in high school and college and still have all of the equipment needed to pick up an old, but favorite hobby. All that was left was a mindset shift from “I wish” to “I can.”

I can take an hour or even an afternoon for myself and head back to the park, or another favorite spot and capture the beauty of the changing season. And to make sure it happens before it’s too late and the trees are bare, I will block out the time in my calendar and then honor it when my reminder goes off. 😎

In the busy weeks ahead as we count down to the holidays and the end of the year, if you too find yourself saying “I wish…” I encourage you to pause, evaluate what it is you’d love to be doing in that moment, and then find a way to add it to your schedule in whatever way works best for you. You don’t have to be a professional to try something new. You can simply enjoy the process of stepping out of your normal routine and trying on a “new hat” for an hour, an afternoon, a day, or even a weekend.

Here’s to finding some time for you in the coming weeks before the craziness of the holiday season is upon us. 🙌🏼 🙌🏾

Change The Where, Not The Who

Happy Woosah Wednesday.

This is a big week for me, as I made my final edits and gave the greenlight for officially sending my first book off for printing. 🙌🏼 🙌🏾

In preparation for the launch, I have been a guest on a handful of podcasts over the past few weeks to share my story. And because it is a book on leadership written for other women on the rise, I’ve met some incredibly amazing and talented fellow female entrepreneurs so far along my journey.

Then, my brain went and did one of it’s favorite things to do and connected the dots…. Each and every encounter has been filled with great energy AND the opportunity to collaborate and amplify each other on our individual missions to help other entrepreneurs. Which lead me to reflect on a time not so long ago, when I found myself in a room that had me questioning if I was “the problem”, when in fact I was simply the outlier in a non-collaborative space.

And then I stumbled across a video clip online that brought it all home. A Black woman in a leadership role was asked to share some advice based on her own experiences. The tip that really hit home for me was “change the where, not the who.” What she meant by this, was when we find ourselves in less than optimal settings or spaces, we (women especially) tend to think we need to adjust WHO we are to fit in WHERE we are. While sometimes this may be true, more often that not, it’s a sign you’re in the wrong place to be your authentic self.

My request of you as you move through the next few weeks is to pay attention to the WHERE’s in your life, especially the ones where you get to be your true, authentic and best self, and make a plan to spend more time in those spaces. Then evaluate what you can do when you find yourself in a space that has you questioning your WHO. Sometimes a simple acknowledgment and conversation can shift the energy, and sometimes you may find the need to limit your time spent in that space to honor yourself.

At the end of the day, we all deserve to be met with more smiles than frowns, so make an effort to maximize your time WHERE you get to be be WHO you are at your core. 😍

Pay Attention To Your Energy

If you’ve seen any of my Woosah Wednesday posts on Social Media, you may be familiar with the term and their purpose. I’ve decided to post them to my blog moving forward, so I’ll start with a quick definition and recap.

DefinitionThe slang term woosah is often used to describe the feeling of relief or calmness in the midst of chaos. In other words, it’s the opposite of feeling stressed out.

A few months back, as another Hump Day Wednesday rolled around, I decided that the negative energy around Hump Day wasn’t something I wanted to associate with Wednesdays anymore, so I set out to flip the script. And while Wednesdays still tend to be my busiest day of the week, my new Woosah Wednesday practice has trained me to look at them from a different perspective. And, more importantly, to stop and breathe if I feel like things are getting out of control.

For today’s Woosah Wednesday post I’d like to focus on energy – both good and bad. As you make your way through the rest of the week, pay attention to your energy with each task, meeting, activity, etc. you complete.

While a successful and productive workday should leave you a bit tired, it should not leave you feeling completely drained. And as we all know, too many draining days strung together often lead to burnout. Paying attention to your energy around your key weekly activities is the first step to shifting your mindset and maybe even your to do list for better end results.

If there’s a task you can’t stand doing, consider delegating it to another member of your team if possible. Or find a way to pair it with something you do enjoy to make it less painful. Conversely, if there is something that you love to do and energizes you, but you haven’t made enough time for it in the past few weeks, block out the time in your calendar now, set a reminder, and honor it when it goes off.

Being a business owner is hard work, but as we’re all heard before, the true key to success is to work smarter. So pay attention to your energy this week and then make the needed adjustments to end your week feeling a little bit tired, but in a good way. 😎 😴